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Banish Those Childhood Demons For Good

We all have our childhood "demons". No, I'm not talking about that scary monster under your bed that's trying to get you, though for some of us that monster is a very real representation of what happened to us at a young age. When I say demons I am talking about a traumatic experience that has affected you in some type of way in your childhood that has followed you to adulthood.

Whatever it is that's haunting you I'm sure it was pretty traumatizing for you as a child and it makes up a huge part of who you are today.

“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive.” – Danielle Bernock


It is time to let go of whatever it is you are holding onto and set it free. Like Danielle Bernock said, if you ignore it or pretend it didn't happen you are not helping yourself one bit because your silent screams are still heard by one person and that person is you!

You are gaining nothing by holding onto those toxic memories and locking them away like it doesn't matter or it didn't happen. The trauma will still be there in you unconscious mind waiting for you to address it so you can move on and heal from it.

Yes it did happened, but don't let it affect your day to day life. It's weird to say, but you should take your traumatic experience and try to let go of it.

Below I will talk about several types of traumatic experiences and how to heal from them as an adult.

Abuse

Depression

Substance Abuse

Alcohol Abuse

Eating Disorders

Relationships

These are some ways that childhood abuse can affect you as an adult.

Experiencing childhood abuse can also mean loss of a normal childhood for the victim. Children who experience this often can't remember large parts of their early life, they can only remember snippets (often meaningless) parts of their childhood.

The types of abuse that a child may experience is sexual abuse, physical abuse and emotional abuse. These type of abuse can stay with you well into adulthood and it can affect you both physically and mentally in your day to day life.

The most sure fire way to deal with the process of healing is by talking to someone such as a family member or friend. If you don't feel comfortable talking to someone close to you because you are too scared or you are afraid of judgment, there is always the option of hiring a psychiatrist. Everything that you tell them is 100% confidential.

Grief

Grief is something that affects everyone even children. Childhood grief can hit at a different level and affect children differently depending on their age or if they experienced the death of the other person or not. It hits differently because most children at the time don't know how to particularly grieve in the correct way.

The child could experience night terrors, intrusive thoughts about the death, guilt or even blame themselves for what happened.

Any little thing can trigger trauma symptoms for this person, whether it's a certain smell that they associate with the person that past away, a place, situation, or even a particular memory.

If you have never healed from the loss of someone as a child or even as an adult here or a few steps you can take to start your healing process.

  • Make meaning of the death, think of why the person died and what significance their death means for everyone else they knew.

  • Maintain a healthy attachment to the person. Keep a memorial, reminisce, remember their modeling behaviors.

  • Death is something that happens to everyone. Learn to accept the reality and permanence of their death.

  • Remember that it is okay to be sad, angry, confused or even feel guilt pertaining to the death. If you keep these emotions locked away - that is not okay! You need to let them out, you will feel so much better.

Bullying

If you were bullied as a child you may remember being confused as to why the other children would pick on you. Another child may pick on you because they crave the power and attention or because bullying makes them feel stronger and better than their victim.

You may find yourself to be shy, timid, or introverted as an adult if you have been bullied as a child. Don't worry there are things you can do to overcome the impact bullies have had on you.

  • Acknowledge the fact that it wasn't your fault that you were bullied as a child. Lots of the time children who are bullied tend to think that it is their fault they were bullied. That is not the case.

  • Take back control over your thoughts, feelings and actions by realizing that you are the one that is in control of your life and no one else. Being bullied most likely made you feel powerless and helpless, so by understanding that you have control over your life will give you that power over your life that you have been seeking.

  • Know your worth because bullying makes people loose their self confidence. So think about all of the negative things a bully has said about you and forget them because they are not even close to being true. Instead think about all of the things you are good at, your strengths, what other people like about you and what you like about yourself.

  • Surround yourself with loving and supportive friends and family.

Car Accidents

Have you ever been in a car accident as an adult? How did it make you feel? Imagine a child being in an accident. Now multiply the feelings that you had as an adult by 10. That's what a child's car accident experience is like.

Being in a traumatic experience like this can lead to PTSD( Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) in a child. This could bring on flashbacks whenever they are near a car or in it. If not treated correctly PTSD can stick will the child to adulthood because the individual may isolate themselves in hopes that it will go away on in due time. They find it difficult to get help to overcome this because they may experience feelings of shame and fear.

Try reaching out to a support network (if you have one), your community, or the people who are going through the same thing as you. Realize that you don't have to go through this alone.

There are a number of Medications, psychotherapy, and alternative therapy that you can do/take that are proven to help and even banish any PTSD symptoms.

To know more about these treatments you can visit https://www.verywellmind.com/

Community Violence

It's no mystery that the community that a child grows up in will have an impact on who they become as adults. Growing up in a violence filled community can affect how the child thinks and acts.

A child's exposure to violence could have a lifelong impact if not addressed in a proper manner. Depression, anxiety and PTSD are some of the disorders that are commonly associated with violence exposure.

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